Comments on: Are Women Who Choose To Live Alone Happier?

By: Anonymous User

Anonymous User — Wed, 01 Oct 2025 13:03:11 +0000

I love this article! I dreamed of a solo life my entire childhood (small house, no privacy, etc etc). I did end up meeting a partner (now husband) who also respects and needs alone time so we are a good match. We both have independent hobbies and activities and now have a house which allows us our own spaces. Miraculously he also travels for work, which allows me some true solitude. I have experienced depression since menopause and during those times I have experienced feelings of loneliness, but they passed and I continue to relish my independence and freedom to live the life I imagined as a kid (childfree by choice but have always had dogs to dote on!). I encourage young people to embrace perhaps perceived “untraditional” lives for themselves if desired. I was born with a rebellious streak that has helped keep the outside voices to a minimum for me. Strangely (or perhaps not-to-much?), the biggest blowback and negativity I have experienced was from family members who chose a more conventional path and are miserable (and maybe envious/jealous of my lifestyle). I am just thankful I trusted myself to follow my intuition and live life on my own terms. I was also a young woman during a time when we still had reproductive rights (and I worked in this field for many years to try to help protect these rights). It is not lost on me that I had that choice and young women in this time period may not. Finding friends with a similar lifestyle has been really challenging going for me. I wish I met more people with similar lifestyles to hang out together and possibly travel together.

By: Courtney Nelms

Courtney Nelms — Sun, 08 Jun 2025 09:53:34 +0000

I love this post! I’m 24 and have been living with my parents and siblings for 24 years. I’m honestly so tired of living with them but I still love them. I long to have my own place where I can come and go as I please without having to tell anyone where I’m going or who I’ll be with. I long for the freedom to be myself and be comfortable being myself without being judged or watched. I’ve always been independent, even as a child, but this is a different kind of independence. I long to live my life on my own terms and not have to set my wants, needs and desires aside to please my parents.

By: Anonymous User

Anonymous User — Sun, 26 Jan 2025 23:23:22 +0000

I was married to a narcissistic compulsive lying ne’er do well. He left me with two young children because as much as he said he loved the family, he just wanted to find his next ‘thing’ – he told me he would be the “best ex-husband ever”. Whaaaat does that even mean? And then he promptly moved overseas and never returned. As horribly diffiicult as it was, being a single mother instilled in me never to let someone steal my agency. While I lost my sense of trust, confidence in my judgement of character and ultimately my innocence, I gained the strength of knowing I could be my own best friend, a role model of perserverance for my children and a belief that no matter what is thrown my way I have the fortitude to ‘figure it out’. I love living alone now and while my friends with husbands vocally worry I will be alone in old age, I turn it right back around and say, “your husband could die tomorrow and you too will be alone…but at least I know how to get shit done.”

By: Anonymous User

Anonymous User — Sat, 12 Oct 2024 22:20:54 +0000

I would be totally fine with a super tiny space. I just want a fridge, a stove, a shower, a toilet, a sink, a closet and a bed and I’m good. It’s worth half my income. I just want my own personal space where I can finally relax, breathe, and be stress free.

By: Peta

Peta — Tue, 20 Aug 2024 07:31:57 +0000

One of the most accurate and truthful articles on the delights of unmarried, untethered life. At 61, I still check whether I missed out on children, family life (or just on-tap companionship). As I lie here in bed deciding what I can do with my day off, I know it’s a resounding ‘no’. My days are without guilt, worry or exhaustion from hourly ‘caring’ , planning and second-guessing for others. That decision, made around 16 has improved with age and I encourage other young women to embrace their own life before sacrificing it to others , where possible. It is my belief that we women are not the natural care-givers and martyrs that society and religion has shaped us into. Have fun and have a go at life alone.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 05:22:52 +0000

Thank you for this. I’m 35 and I have chosen a life of peaceful solitude with my dog for six years. I read, am in a choir, make art, and write. I appreciate this fresh take! Social pressure to couple up is everywhere, but I have peace and so much restorative rest on my own!

By: Anonymous User

Anonymous User — Sun, 23 Jun 2024 17:47:53 +0000

25 year young woman here! Dated last in 2019 (serious relationship wise). Been single for the past 5 years. I’ve had both good and bad moments with it. Most importantly, I’ve come to the realisation that as much as it’s a choice to be in a relationship/be coupled, I think it’s equally a choice to be single too! Cheers to this newfound shift in the narrative of choosing to be single 🥂

By: Anonymous User

Anonymous User — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 03:16:13 +0000

I used to think that I didn’t choose the single life, and I always lived alone while longing for a partner. I have had multiple relationships and they always seemed so complicated. Recently, I moved in with my current partner and I am becoming so clear that it is not for me. I can’t wait to live alone again! Whether in an intimate relationship or not, I need my own sanctuary space. And I’m not going to feel bad, or “less than”, or like something is wrong with me bc I’m not married. I’m doing it my way, and I’m going to celebrate it. It takes courage to remain true to yourself and not marry the wrong person or settle, and the single lifestyle needs to be more normalized. Now, if only we could get some tax credits!

By: Trina

Trina — Thu, 04 Apr 2024 03:08:32 +0000

Although I am single without children and can relate to all the benefits described here, calling it a choice doesn’t quite resonate with me. The feeling I have is that I didn’t choose the single life. I want a partner and still hope to find them. The choice I am making is to live my best life anyway instead of wait for the partner I may never have. My life deserves to be lived well, with or without a partner.

By: Anonymous User

Anonymous User — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 17:19:56 +0000

As I travel back to an empty house after a busy weekend with my parents, this article encouraged me to not dread solitude!